how can i include my bf in pregnancy?

If he can come along to the ob-gyn, bring him.

Are you doing Lamaze? Bring him.

Will you be picking out things for the nursery or whatnot? Bring him

I am 17wks pregnant and my fiance is the same - he really wants to be involved in any way he can since he can't experience the actual pregnancy!

In order to make him "part of it" him and i go shopping together to buy baby things (even just looking if you don't want to buy yet makes them feel involved). I encourage him to talk to baby whenever he wants to (we must look odd in shops when he just "has to" talk to baby right then and there! lol). I also bought alot of story books and him and i take turns every day reading to baby. He falls asleep with his hand resting on my stomach and wakes up and puts his hand on my stomach (although he can't feel anything yet it makes him feel connected). We have our first ultra-sound next week and he is coming along too.

He also loved to jump up to fulfil my cravings whenever i had them because they were caused by the pregnancy so he felt connected in that way too. And cooking and cleaning when i'm literally too exhausted to do anything made him feel like a big help (and he is).

Its alot of the little things that count - he is very content knowing he is doing all he can and he is eagerly anticipating baby kicking so he can feel the movements too.

Its nice to have a guy so eager to be involved isn't it?!

Good luck!

Invite him to go along with you to your doctor appointments. That way he can be there to listen to baby's heartbeat and sit in on the ultrasound exams,etc.. I just went in for an ultrasound tuesday (I'm 28 weeks) and took my bf along with me, he loved being able to see our baby on the moniter and was truly amazed at how more developed he looked now from the ultrasound I had at 17 weeks. You can try including him when you go shopping for maternity clothes and/or baby stuff. My bf goes with me when I go shopping and helps me pick out stuff and offers opinions when I need it. Which is great we spend quality time together and he feels like he's apart of it by helping out so I don't have to make all the decisions on my own.

There are several good books. One I got my husband he said really helped was "A Father's Guide to Pregnancy" .

Your bf will feel left out. Keep in mind that you are doing most of the work physically. Let him do some things for you. Even if its just getting you some water or rubbing your back. Make him feel like more then the doner and more like a partner in pregnancy.

if he's offering, let him rub your feet occasionally - you'll love that. And he'll feel like he's helping too. The fun part for involving them in the pregnancy comes later. My husband discovered that the baby was more active early in the morning (when I was still sleeping) so when he could feel movement from the outside, it never failed - I woke up with his arm around me and his hand on my belly. I never told him - but I thought it was absolutely adorable. He's closer to our second baby (the one he did this with) I'm not sure if this is a reason for it, but they have a stronger bond. Any way you can involve him is great - if he's offering to help, let him. But also make sure he understands that you need to stay busy, and keep doing things as well :)

YES! He can help you by staying involved. Have him come to your ultrasound appointments so you and him can see the progress of your growing baby! Its a beautiful thing! I'm pregnant with my 1st child and my boyfriend comes to everything with me!!! I always want him around he comes to my appointments he is even curious on how much weight I'm gaining and he sees that I am trying to eat healthier and he is trying to do the same! Let him come with you to everything! Its really nice to be able to share the time together.

Take him to registar for the baby shower.

Go looking at baby stuff with him in general, it will be better once you know the sex of the baby.

Let him go to ALL Dr. appointments, and tell him anything new you learn, or exciting that happens when he isn't there.

Right now there really isnt a lot that he can do for you, but just let him share in everything and that should be enough.

It worked for me!

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Sounds like he's excited about the pregnancy and wants to make sure you are comfortable! I say enjoy it and let him pamper you for a bit. Ask for what you want, massage, a special food, etc. And if you don't want anything, just thank him for the offer and tell him how special he makes you feel.

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Mine was exactly the same. After the baby arrived he said that he had wanted to do things for me because I was growing the baby! Your man might feel a bit in awe of what is going on inside you and so let him help especially if you feel tired or sick. There is no need to martyr yourself if he is willing. I also found it helped to involve him in all the appointments, scans etc - if he is ok with coming. Ask his opinion, tell him what you feel - about how you are but also about what it feels like to have his baby inside you. Its a wonderful thing and women are lucky they can experience it first hand - we have to help our partners to understand what we feel. Mine said it helped him feel more part of it and more in control. Scarey for them too I suppose

good luck and congratulations